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Idiocy, Perception, Personal issues

Sex, kindly fuck off


Just in case you didn’t know, platonic love is real love. We have news sources like to remind of us this fact. Female writers should not write about loose sex relationships, for they would be setting a bad example for the younger generations of girls.

Vitriolic sarcasm aside, it is hyperbolic and rather melodramatic to express disappointment over a narrator/memoirist recounting their easygoing, instantaneous sexual exploits in explicit detail as if something has been lost. Don’t get me wrong, I am not, in any way, directing this at Ms Myerson (who wrote the article) or Monique Roffey on a personal level. I don’t know enough about them personally (obviously) to make sort of personal judgments. Rather, this dialogue directed at the views they seem to have, and really, many women and men seem to have; these ideas that platonic relationships, or more accurately relationships without sex, are somehow more valid because there just have to more love.

If a relationship has sex from its onset, it can’t be that serious. This an example of a large of overarching issue I have with humanity: the necessity for recognizable patterns turned into and absolute necessity for very basic ideals to be held as gospel. No sex = lots of love, lots of potential. Sex = far less serious, ESPECIALLY before marriage. Lots of sex = not all that serious at all, and in some minds “sinful” (This is a big generalization, but it would seem to be the case.)

Despite being a gross generalization, there is patent, visible resistance to unestablished relationship trends and structures and foundations. If a bond is more sexual, there is going to be social resistance from others who seek to dissuade you from such a bond (which they are in their personal rights to do to a point). And it isn’t a surprise, given how rampant and ingrained in our culture romcoms and romances of any type are, especially in the female psyche.

There was an article, also in , a few days prior in which Samantha Ellis discussed how her childhood views of protagonists in novels she read differ greatly from her views of them as a more experienced adult. The characters from books genetic females, in many situation, are socially encouraged to read (along with the obligatory YA fad) that feature very….Victorian (and prior periods) protagonists, as if Victorian protagonists are people who ethical and moral judgment we would trust in today’s world.

Keeping sex away from the younguns, and away from women in general, is yet another inane, latent tendency of our society that we, as a culture, have yet to do away with. If we are to truly advance and evolve as a culture, we need to analyze all our bigotries and biases.

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About austurias

Marxist, feminist, LGBT advocate, aspiring Literary writer, unhinged from reality as it may be and ecstatic adorer of Speculative Fiction.

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One thought on “Sex, kindly fuck off

  1. Licorice, come friend me on FB! It’s me Bobbie from the old Permuted Press Forum. 🙂 https://www.facebook.com/bobbie.metevier

    Posted by Bobbie | October 7, 2014, 12:59 AM

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